Besides the funeral itself, whatever form it takes, a number of associated details need to be attended to. Friends, coworkers, and fellow congregants can play a major role in relieving the bereaved family of many of these tasks.
- If the deceased wished to be an organ donor, remember that time is of the essence. Notify the attending physician and medical staff immediately and they will notify the closest transplant center.
- A death certificate must be filed before cremation or burial takes place. The certificate is issued either by a doctor who has been treating the deceased or, if such a doctor is not available, by the medical examiner or coroner. If the circumstances of death are at all questionable, the medical examiner is called.
- Remember also that it is the responsibility of the survivors to choose the funeral home. If you don't know which funeral home you want to use and the death occurred in a hospital, it may be possible to keep the body in the morgue until you make a decision.
- Notify lawyer and executor.
- Make a list of everyone else to be notified right away and make the calls.
- If memorials are to be substituted for flowers, decide on the organization and let people know in the obituary.
- Write an obituary news item. Include age, place of birth, cause of death, occupation, college degrees, memberships held, military service, outstanding work, list of survivors in immediate family. Give time and place of services.
- Make a list of additional people to be notified by letter, card, or printed notice.
- Notify insurance companies, including automobile insurance, for immediate cancellation and refund if available.
- Keep a record of all calls and visits. Arrange for friends or family members to answer door and phone.
- Plan hospitality for visitors, including transportation, if necessary.
- Arrange childcare as needed.
- Coordinate supplying of food for the first days. Different friends might each bring a dinner.
- Consider special needs of the household, such as cleaning. Again, friends can divide the work.
- Plan for disposition of flowers after the funeral—for instance, to a hospital or nursing home.
- Check promptly on all debts and installment payments. Some may carry insurance clauses that will cancel them. If there is to be a delay in meeting payments, consult with creditors for extensions of time.
- If the deceased lived alone, contact the landlord, utility companies, postal service, and newspaper carrier. Tell the police the home is empty and ask neighbors to report unusual activity.
- Prepare a list of people who should be sent notes or acknowledgments for helping, visiting, calling, writing, or sending flowers or donations.
For surviving family members and friends following a loved one's death,
funeral homes provide an important service. But funeral homes are also
businesses, and are typically run with an eye toward profit margins and
maximizing the sale of various products and services that you and your
family may or may not need.
Immediately following the death of a loved one, the last thing most of
us would choose to do is sit across the desk from a salesperson in a high-pressure,
time-sensitive situation that requires us to make a series of important
consumer choices that may cost thousands of dollars. At these times, survivors
are vulnerable to making hasty, costly decisions that might not make sense
with the perspective that a little more time would bring.
This article will help you at the time of a loved one's death. It will
give you a review of the many choices confronting you, and it will assist
you in finding resources that will help you get appropriate services at
a reasonable cost.
It makes sense to read this article when there is no immediate need. That
will give you a frame of reference in the future if the need suddenly occurs.
In addition, you can take this opportunity to make decisions in advance
for yourself or for loved ones—so that decisions are made based on each
individual's expressed preferences, while also considering the emotional
needs of survivors.
Though it is difficult for many people to do, preplanning your own funeral
arrangements is a sensible and thoughtful thing to do. Your willingness
to become informed will give you some power over the final decisions of
your life, and your personal involvement in planning your own final disposition
will be a source of comfort to your survivors.
Imagine the more common alternative: a grieving family having to respond
on the spot to a long list of questions from a funeral director. The funeral
director is at ease in a situation of death when the family is distraught
and knows little or nothing about the choices or their costs. The family's
grief and guilt may be subtly manipulated by the funeral director to encourage
expensive purchases. This situation, far too common, perhaps partially
explains why most funerals and burial arrangements in this country cost
between $7,000 and $10,000. There is nothing wrong with an expensive funeral
if that is the choice of the family. What is wrong is for a family that
might prefer a simple, dignified ceremony to end up with something lavish
In what follows, we report our findings from surveys of funeral homes and
of funeral home customers. We also steer you to other resources that can
help you in your decisions. And we review the basic choices you'll need
Most people need help making funeral arrangements. This is especially true
when arrangements are made during the time of bereavement. And there is
one firm rule: never go by yourself to a funeral home to decide on services
you will be purchasing. Alone in the hands of a funeral director you are
too vulnerable to making purchases based on grief or guilt. You need someone
else who is less involved to assure you that sensible cost-saving decisions
are all right.
The obvious places to turn for help with funeral arrangements are family,
friends, members of the clergy, and hospital social workers. But there
are also organizations set up specially to help you.
A particularly helpful source of advice can be a funeral consumer organization,
traditionally referred to as a memorial society. These are nonprofit organizations
that provide consumer education and resources regarding your rights and
options for burial and cremation. Some memorial societies also negotiate
discounted prices with local funeral homes for their members. There is
typically a one-time, nominal donation to join.
The Funeral Consumers Alliance (www.funerals.org) is the national umbrella
group for affiliated funeral consumer groups in the U.S. Many local affiliates
perform price surveys of area funeral homes. They also provide information
on organ or tissue donation and provide information on death benefits.
They do not arrange for funerals, pay for funerals, or choose a specific
funeral director for you.
Below, we list contact information for the memorial societies in the Delaware
Valley area. To find memorial societies in other areas, contact the Funeral
Consumers Alliance at 800-765-0107 or visit www.funerals.org.
There are several options for disposing of a deceased person's remains.
Burial is the traditional choice of disposition. It can be done directly,
with no viewing or ceremonies, or with any combination of viewing, ceremony,
or graveside service. In any case, burial usually requires that you purchase
a casket; cemetery plot; fees to open and close the grave; cemetery endowment
(upkeep); and marker, monument, or headstone. At most cemeteries, a grave
liner or vault is also required. Though most burials are below ground,
another (usually more expensive) option is burial above ground in a mausoleum.
Direct burial is the least expensive option: a funeral home files the necessary
paperwork and places the unembalmed body in a casket and the remains are
taken to a cemetery for burial, usually within one day. Direct burial is
often accompanied by a simple graveside service. This alternative eliminates
expenses for embalming and some expenses for funeral home facilities, and
often results in use of a minimum-priced casket.
Cremation is an increasingly popular choice over burial. Neither a casket
nor embalming is generally required, but if the body must be held for several
days, refrigeration or embalming may be necessary. Cremation, like burial,
can be direct or after a funeral. It is also possible to have an embalming,
viewing, and ceremony followed by cremation. Some funeral homes offer rental
caskets for such situations, while others sell modest caskets that are
attractive, but designed for cremation. Cremation also allows flexibility
as to when or where any services are held—many families now hold memorial
services in their own homes or the decedent's favorite place.
Cremated remains may be scattered, kept at home, buried in a cemetery,
or kept in a columbarium (an above-ground structure containing permanent
niches). Burial in a cemetery or placement in a columbarium adds to the
Whether a body is to be buried or cremated, part or all of it can first
be donated to improve the quality of life of others—or, indeed, to give
the gift of life itself. Donation of at least some body parts is an option
for almost anyone, regardless of age or medical history. Whether donation
is right for you is a choice that requires personal reflection.
Donation can be of organs or tissues or of the whole body. If you wish
to become a donor, be sure to let your family know of your wishes and enroll
with the local organ donor registry (see below) and have it noted on your
driver's license. If you wish to make a whole body donation, make prior
arrangements with the medical school of your choice. A decision to donate
a whole body cannot be made by the family without these prior arrangements.
After organ and tissue donation, all the usual funeral arrangements still
need to be made. Even with the removal of organs and tissues, an open casket
ceremony is usually possible.
If arrangements have been made for donation of a body to a medical school,
once notified, the school will transport the body and assume responsibility
for disposal by cremation. Depending on the school, the ashes may be returned
to the family, but this may not happen for as long as two years. With the
exception of removing the corneas, whole body donation usually precludes
the donation of individual organs or tissues for transplants.
There is much room for variation in type of ceremony between the simplest
direct disposition and the most lavish funeral. Think about whether you
want a traditional funeral, with the casket open or closed, or whether
you would like a memorial service instead, without the body present. Holding
a memorial service, church service, or graveside service is generally less
expensive than a conventional funeral.
You also need to decide if you want a religious or secular service. Either
can be held at a funeral home, religious establishment, residence, or elsewhere.
Finally, decide whom you want to invite. Do you want the ceremony open
to all relatives and friends or for immediate family only?
Think in terms of what would be a meaningful commemoration of the deceased.
Often something simple can be quite profound. You don't need an expensive
funeral to show love and respect.
A funeral home is required by the Federal Trade Commission (FTC) to give
you a copy of their General Price List (GPL) if you visit their facility
and ask about costs. They are not required to send you the entire price
list if you call, but many will. If you know the specific type of service
you want, such as, a simple cremation, they are required to give you a
price quote over the phone if you request it. Some funeral homes now also
post their GPLs on their websites. GPLs must include itemized prices for
at least the following, if offered—
- Direct cremation
- Immediate burial
- Basic services of funeral director and staff (and overhead)
- Transfer of remains to the funeral home
- Forwarding of remains to another funeral home
- Receiving remains from another funeral home
- Other preparation of the body
- Use of facilities/staff for viewing
- Use of facilities/staff for funeral ceremony
- Use of facilities/staff for memorial service
- Use of equipment and staff for graveside service
- Either individual casket prices or the range of casket prices that can
be found on a separately available casket price list
- Either individual outer burial container prices or the range of outer burial
container prices that can be found on a separately available outer burial
container price list
For many consumers, deciphering a GPL is confusing and overwhelming. Some
run for as long as 20 pages or more and are filled with unfamiliar jargon
and bewildering package options. So it's best to get a written price quote
for any services you're considering.
There are many other items offered by funeral homes, and it's reasonable
for you to expect full disclosure of the costs of these other items as
well. For example, a home might offer prayer cards, flowers, music, burial
clothing, programs, memorial flags, placement of newspaper death notices,
a police escort, hired pallbearers, and acknowledgment cards.
The funeral home is required by law to make certain disclosures about your
choices. A home must tell you—
- About all of the services it offers and that you are free to select only
the items you desire. If legal or other requirements mean you must buy
any items you did not specifically ask for, these must be explained on
a written statement describing the goods and services you selected.
- Except in certain special cases, embalming is not required by law. Embalming
may be necessary, however, if you select certain funeral arrangements,
such as a funeral with viewing. If you do not want embalming, you usually
have the right to choose an arrangement that does not require you to pay
for it, such as, direct cremation or immediate burial.
- If you want to arrange a direct cremation, you can use an alternative container.
Alternative containers encase the body and can be made of materials like
Since most of the items offered by a funeral home cost money and each might
affect the emotional aspects of a funeral service, you need to make careful
decisions about what you want and don't want. These decisions are personal
matters and should not be dictated by a funeral director. Several deserve
Most funeral homes require embalming if the casket is to be open for public
viewing. Some funeral homes will arrange a private viewing of the remains
without embalming if it is done soon after death (although there is usually
an extra charge for this practice).
The cost for preparation of the body, including embalming, cosmetology,
and dressing, ranged in our survey of funeral homes from $600 to $2,030
with the average around $1,084. If the funeral home provides the clothing,
the cost will be even more. The main thing to remember is that embalming
and an open casket open the door to all sorts of additional funeral expenses.
If it is not embalmed, the body is refrigerated. The FTC requires funeral
homes to offer up to three days refrigeration without charge as a part
of standard funeral arrangements. After three days, the funeral home can
start charging for it, but most funeral homes only charge for refrigeration
if there is an extended delay in time of disposition.
The casket is the single most expensive item in most funerals, but just
how expensive depends on your choice. Casket prices range from less than
$1,000 for the least expensive pine or pressed wood box, to $25,000 or
more for the most elaborate, made of copper or bronze with innerspring
mattresses and plush velvet or silk linings. Since the markup on a casket
is often three to five times its wholesale price, a funeral director's
advice, and even the design of the selection room, may be geared toward
influencing you to make an expensive choice. Most people choose midrange
models made of steel or hardwoods like mahogany or walnut, at $3,000 to
$6,000. By draping a closed casket with a flag, funeral pall, or flowers,
a less expensive casket can be used.
The least expensive kinds of containers are cardboard containers or pouches.
These are adequate for cremation or direct disposition. Some homes may
have available a rental casket. It can be used for viewing, allowing you
to buy a less expensive one for disposition.
You may have to ask to be shown less expensive models, as they may not
be on display. Do not be misled on emotional grounds or on the basis of
a casket's claimed preservation qualities.
With cremation becoming increasingly popular for many funeral homes, urns
have replaced caskets as the major profit centers. You can purchase an
urn from the funeral home or provide one yourself. Like caskets, urn prices
at funeral homes range dramatically from less than $50 to thousands of
dollars for artist-made urns. Most funeral homes provide a simple plastic
box as a basic urn. What you use as an urn doesn't have to be an "official"
urn at all; it can be a ceramic pot with a lid, for example. But note that
if you are planning to place an urn in a columbarium or cemetery, you'll
want to check on any requirements for maximum dimensions or restrictions
on certain types and colors of urns.
A vault or grave liner to hold a casket is required by many cemeteries
to prevent the ground from collapsing or caving in. This item, unlike a
casket, is rarely included in the package price of a "complete" funeral.
Prices of outer burial containers typically range from about $500 for the
least expensive concrete grave liner to $8,000 or more for a "triple reinforced"
bronze vault. Because neither vaults nor liners preserve remains, a cement
liner serves the same purpose as an elaborate vault, at a considerably
lower cost. You might be able to purchase a vault or grave liner at a cemetery
for less money than through a funeral home.
When you have decided on the means of disposition, type of ceremony, and
services and merchandise you desire, you can turn to the task of selecting
a funeral home. We have gathered some data to help you.
We surveyed area CHECKBOOK and Consumer Reports subscribers for their ratings
of funeral homes they have used. our Ratings Tables show results for
the homes for which we received 10 or more ratings. Almost all of the homes
rate rather high. (For more information on our customer survey and other
research methods, click here.)
For firms that were evaluated in our last full, published article, our
callers shopped for prices for three types of services:
- Direct cremation—Includes the firm's basic fee, the least expensive cremation
container/casket offered, and the crematory cost.
- Immediate burial—Includes the firm's basic fee, the least expensive casket
offered, and the least expensive grave liner offered.
- Traditional funeral—Includes the minimum services of the funeral director
and staff; transfer of deceased from place of death to the funeral home;
embalming, cosmetology, dressing, and casketing; least expensive solid
oak casket; least expensive grave liner; one two-hour visitation session
at the funeral home the day before the funeral service; supervision by
the home's staff of a funeral service at a church; hearse; and the home's
supervision of a committal/graveside service.
The price range for each type of service was very large. The price of a
direct cremation ranged from $1,200 to $4,060, with an average of $2,509.
For our sample traditional funeral, the price range was more than $6,000,
with an average of $9,540.
You might want services different from the packages for which we got quotes.
Table 1 gives you a sense of what different elements cost if selected separately.
As you can see, the variation is large.
You may wish to consider one of the many area homes for which we have no
data. If so, the best approach, if time permits, is to shop by phone first
and then make personal visits to a few homes. When you call for prices,
the funeral director very likely will encourage you to come in "because
these matters are too complicated to discuss over the phone," or "because
we will surely be able to work something out between us if you'll just
come by." But you do have the right to get price quotes on specific services
over the phone, and that may be a more convenient, less pressure-filled
way to get several quotes.
In addition to customer ratings, complaint histories, and prices, you will
want to consider a home's location, tastefulness of facilities, and willingness
to accommodate your wishes.
For many people, it is difficult quickly to pull together several thousand
dollars to pay for a funeral, and the funeral industry is aware of this.
On the other hand, since it is impossible to reclaim a coffin or take back
any of the services surrounding a funeral, it is understandable that funeral
homes want assurance of payment. Our survey of area homes turned up several
different arrangements for financing a funeral. A few homes want payment
in advance once arrangements are decided upon, although in cases of need
they might be willing to work out another payment schedule. (Advance payment
is most often expected in connection with cremation.) Other homes allow
a period of 30 to 60 days for payment with no interest charges, and almost
all homes accept credit cards. Some funeral homes have their own installment
plans, some with and some without interest.
Because the settlement of an estate usually takes quite a while, benefits
are an important factor in partially or even completely defraying funeral
expenses. Remember that most death benefits must be applied for and will
not be sent automatically to survivors.
A Social Security death benefit of $255 is available to a surviving, eligible
spouse or dependent child (under 18). When there is no survivor, payment
will not be made. An application for the lump sum payment must be filed
within two years of the death of the deceased. Payment is made directly
to the surviving spouse or entitled child, never directly to the funeral
Honorably discharged veterans may be entitled to burial in a national cemetery
with a grave marker and a flag for the casket. Other benefits may be available
if the death occurs while on active duty or if the person dies while hospitalized
in a Veterans facility. Check with the Veterans Administration's Benefits
Office (800-827-1000 or www.cem.va.gov) to determine the benefits you
(or the decedent) are entitled to and under what conditions.
Other benefits that may be available are death payments from fraternal
organizations, lodges, clubs, union welfare funds, retirement plans, and
employers. To track these down, survivors should get in touch with organizations
and institutions the deceased worked for or was affiliated with. Many of
these benefits are available to a surviving relative to use as he or she
sees fit and not necessarily only for a funeral. These benefits generally
can be applied to whatever kind of disposition is arranged.
The filing for death benefits on behalf of survivors is a standard service
of most funeral homes. If survivors decide to file their own claims, the
funeral director should be asked if this will result in a deduction on
the home's "professional services" charge.
Whether survivors apply for death benefits themselves or use the services
of the funeral director, a number of documents will be needed. Certified
copies are required in some instances; photocopies are sometimes not acceptable.
Survivors will need:
- Social Security number of the deceased.
- Typically five to 10 certified copies of the death certificate to establish
insurance claims, Social Security, and other claims.
- Copies of birth certificates of surviving spouse and minor children for
Social Security, VA, and other benefits.
- Copies of marriage certificate for Social Security and VA benefits for
surviving spouse and minor children.
- Copy of veteran's discharge papers for VA benefits.
- Copies of receipted bill from funeral home for VA benefits—also for Social
Security benefits if applicant is not the surviving spouse.
You can write down your own preferences for funeral arrangements and give
your description to a likely survivor. Alternatively, you can file a preference
form with a funeral home without making any financial commitment.
In contrast, prepayment for a funeral represents a major financial commitment
and, in our opinion, generally is not a good idea. Under a prepayment plan,
you arrange with a particular funeral director for yourself to make a lump
sum payment or installment payments on all the items selected for your
own funeral. You can make these payments into a trust or a life insurance
policy arranged through the funeral home. Before making such a commitment,
- What the contract does not cover;
- What happens if you die before the plan is fully paid up;
- What money you get back if you decide to cancel;
- Whether the funeral home has a good reputation and has been in business
for many years;
- What happens if the funeral home goes out of business or changes ownership;
- Whether the arrangement is guaranteed to cover the cost of your selected
funeral arrangements even if costs go up;
- Whether the money you put away will earn interest, and at what rate; and,
- What happens if you move.
Do not enter a prepayment plan without having a lawyer look over the contract
before you sign it. And be aware that, while the funeral industry wants
to sell you peace of mind in that your family will be spared difficult
decisions and expenses when you die, prepaid funerals often create more
problems than they solve. It's not uncommon for the new owner of a funeral
home to refuse to honor price guarantees made by the old owner. Likewise,
many "cash advance items"—items or services provided by a third party,
such as, fees for death certificates, opening and closing of a grave, grave
vaults and liners, engraving, and honoraria for clergy or musicians are
not guaranteed—so families frequently have additional expenses. And many
unscrupulous funeral directors across the U.S. have simply embezzled customers'
prepaid funds, leaving the family with nothing.
A simpler arrangement is to open a savings account, called a Totten trust,
at a bank, naming your chosen funeral home as the recipient of the funds
upon your death. Alternatively, you can open a joint savings account with
a likely survivor; then the survivor will get the funds at your death.
Either of these arrangements lets the funds avoid probate so they will
be available immediately for funeral costs. Under both arrangements, however,
you must pay income taxes on earnings.
No matter what, tell your likely survivors about any arrangement you make
with a funeral home so they don't pay for services at a different home.
In our survey of funeral costs, we did not include costs of a cemetery
plot or the opening and closing of a gravesite. These items typically add
thousands of dollars to the other funeral expenses. The following are a
few tips to help you deal with a cemetery.
- Do some comparison shopping. Cemetery plots are like real estate lots:
it's all about location, location, location. You will find that there's
significant variation in the prices of lots, merchandise, and services.
- Buying a cemetery plot doesn't mean you'll own the land, just the right
to be buried there. So the cemetery can dictate how your family can use
the space. If you want to bury a second casket or urn of ashes, it will
probably charge for a second internment. The cemetery will also likely
limit the number of burials per plot. And most cemeteries have rules on
what monuments can be used, what flowers (if any) can be planted, and how
long the cemetery waits until clearing items left at gravesites by visitors.
- If you are considering purchasing cemetery property and services before
- Remember that if a death occurs before payments have been completed, the
outstanding balance on the site, the interment charge, and the receptacle
for the casket is usually due immediately.
- Consider the fact that you and your family members may not always live
in your present area. Ask if the cemetery belongs to an exchange program,
so that your lot(s), merchandise, and/or services can be transferred if
you move. If not, find out if the cemetery offers alternative plans, such
as repurchase or resale on your behalf, and if there is any restriction
on your right to resell the property or merchandise yourself.
- Make sure you know how any prepayments will be safeguarded. Ask if they
will be deposited in an interest-bearing account or trust fund.
- Don't be frightened into pre-need purchases by being told that the cost
of burial and burial merchandise could become prohibitive in a few years.
- As an alternative, consider creating your own special savings account for
future cemetery purchases.
- Take note of the general appearance of a cemetery you are considering.
Drive around and check the condition of the grounds. Are buildings and
walls maintained well? Is the grass mowed and clipped around monuments
- Be aware that perpetual care of the cemetery does not always include maintenance
of monuments and markers. Be sure that you understand exactly what will
be provided as part of the purchase you are considering.
- When you talk to the sales representative:
- Check whether sites you are considering for two bodies are side by side
or a double depth.
- Ask whether you can bury cremated remains in the plot.
- Ask if the cemetery has a price list you can examine. Unlike funeral homes,
cemeteries are not required to have them, but they should be able to provide
you a written price quote.
- Check whether you are discussing an exact location or area within the cemetery
(the prices of lots vary according to location).
- Explore potential savings in buying a family plot or lawn crypts.
- Be sure to read the cemetery rules and regulations to learn about any restrictions
or additional costs. For example, grave liners are not required by law
but are required by most cemeteries. Remember that vaults are more expensive
- Once you have made a choice, revisit the cemetery for another inspection
before signing any contracts.
- There are various choices to consider in the purchase of a grave marker
or monument. The size, style, inscription, material, and installation charge
affect the price of the marker.
- You cannot be forced to buy a marker or monument from the cemetery where
you buy your lot. Before you use an outside supplier, however, check the
cemetery's rules and regulations regarding installation, care, and maintenance
of the memorial.
- Ask if the cemetery or supplier buys the merchandise in advance, sets it
aside, and provides you with a record of ownership. This policy may mean
protection for you if the seller has financial problems at a later date.
- The charges for a burial are usually higher on the weekend. If you intend
to pre-purchase these services, ask if there will be a refund if burial
takes place during the week.
- Before signing any contract for property, merchandise, or services, carefully
review its terms and provisions. Be certain that it conforms exactly with
your understanding of what you are buying. Make sure that, among the other
things listed, it includes the following:
- A full description of the lot and its location.
- A description of the type, size, and design of burial merchandise and a
description of services to be performed. Does the price include installation
- Guarantees for transfer of lots to another cemetery (or other arrangements)
should you or your family members move, if that is part of the agreement.
- The cost of each item purchased and the total cost.
- That all cemetery expenses are guaranteed, regardless of the actual cost
at time of death. Some cemeteries will not guarantee the costs for opening
and closing of the grave, vault or liner, monument or engraving. So survivors
end up paying hundreds or even thousands of dollars more to cover these
costs, even though they thought they were already paid for.
Want to skip the funeral home middleman? Well, if you're up to it, you
can. And some families are doing just that.
Remember, until the last century or so, families took care of their own
loved ones when they died. This practice—now referred to as "home funerals"—has
become increasingly popular in recent years, partly due to a backlash against
increasingly high funeral costs, partly due to a desire by some families
to reclaim traditions, and partly as an offshoot of the die-at-home movement,
seeing a home funeral as a natural extension of the experience of caring
for loved ones.
In most states—including Delaware, New Jersey, and Pennsylvania—it is perfectly
legal for anyone to handle all the aspects of services that are normally
provided by funeral homes. The family handles the paperwork (a death certificate
needs to be completed by a physician or medical examiner and filed and
a burial or cremation permit issued), buys a casket, preserves the body
using dry ice, and organizes and conducts its own ceremonies and services.
If you're interested in this option, there are guides, videos, and workshops
available that can help. Good sources of information can be found at www.funerals.org
and at www.homefuneraldirectory.com.
An increasingly popular burial choice is "green burial," where the body
remains unembalmed and is placed in a biodegradable casket or cloth shroud
and buried without a grave liner. The cemetery is planted with native vegetation
rather than grass, and graves may be marked by native trees, shrubs, or
fieldstones. Instead of having a cemetery appearance, the land becomes
a natural greenspace.
To find out more about green burial, visit www.greenburialcouncil.org.
The price of the casket often represents a large portion of the price charged
for a funeral. When we calculated sample costs for a traditional funeral
for each of the firms listed on our Ratings Tables, we included the
firms' costs for the least expensive solid oak casket they offered. On
average, the price of the casket alone accounted for 35 percent of funeral
homes' charges. Had we chosen a more expensive type of coffin—for example,
an elaborate casket made of copper or bronze with plush linings—the price
of the casket could have accounted for more than three-fourths of the average
There is tremendous price variation from firm to firm for the exact same
caskets. Many funeral homes regularly mark up casket prices three to five
times higher than their wholesale costs; some funeral homes have even higher
Surprisingly, it is possible to comparison-shop for caskets. By law, funeral
homes must allow you to provide your own casket, and are not allowed to
charge you a handling fee if you do so (although they can withhold offered
discounts for funeral packages if customers decide not to buy a casket
from them). There are dozens of online casket vendors who sell directly
to consumers and then ship the caskets out for next-day delivery to funeral
homes. Even Costco and Wal-Mart have gotten in on the action; many of their
stores now sell caskets, and when we checked, we found several different
models for sale via their websites.
We compared prices charged by funeral homes for several different casket
models with prices charged by seven online direct sellers and found that
direct casket sellers almost always offer considerable savings compared
to buying from funeral homes. For example, for one casket model, the average
price quoted by area funeral homes was $6,426; at www.funeral-caskets.us,
the price was $3,695 and at www.casket-online.com the price was $3,990.
For another casket model, the average price at area funeral homes was $4,280;
at www.funeral-caskets.us, the price was $2,675 and at www.casketoptions.com the price was $2,845.
Another strategy is to use prices quoted by direct sellers to negotiate
with a funeral home. Once you've picked out a casket from a funeral home's
showroom, you can shop around for a better price at online retailers. Then
let the funeral home know the best price you found for the casket, and
that you're considering buying it elsewhere, unless the funeral home will
lower its price. By law, funeral homes must provide customers with casket
price lists for caskets they sell, and they are not allowed to charge higher
prices than those shown on the price list, but funeral homes are allowed—at
their discretion—to discount casket prices.
Be aware that circumstances and location of death may limit organ, tissue,
or whole-body donation possibilities. Here are a few caveats:
- Organs—If death occurs due to brain damage from accident, stroke, or any
situation where life can be artificially sustained by machine, the body
can be used for donation of all major organs. This would only be limited
by medical history that indicated problems with any organs.
- Tissues—Donation of tissues, including corneas, bone, bone marrow, skin,
and connective tissues can always be done in situations where organs could
be donated and can also be done in other circumstances up to 24 hours after
the heart has stopped beating. Cornea removal can be done in the funeral
home, but all other tissue must be removed in a surgical setting.
- Whole body donations—Donations usually cannot be accepted if embalming
or an autopsy has been performed or if death is due to a contagious disease
or after a mutilating accident. If death occurs far away from the specified
medical school, the arrangement might not be possible or the family might
have to pay for transportation expenses to get the body there. A rare circumstance
of refusal might be that the medical school has an oversupply of bodies.
Since you won't know for sure until time of death if the body will be accepted
by a medical school, be sure to have an alternative arrangement in case
it can't be donated.
Except for possibly having to pay for transportation to a faraway school,
families never pay for donation procedures nor are they paid for organs
or tissues. Most medical schools will pay to cremate the body.
Be wary of other organizations that offer free cremation in exchange for
whole body donation. Some of these offers are from companies operating
on the fringes of the law. It is illegal to sell bodies and body parts
in the U.S., but the demand is such that criminals can collect as much
as $20,000 per body for distributing body parts. If you're not dealing
directly with representatives of a medical school, confirm with hospital
staff or other professionals that you're working with an organization that
is a true, community-based nonprofit.
Here is a list of contacts for medical schools for whole body donation
and contact information for the Gift of Life Donor Program, which can advise
you on tissue and organ donation—
- Gift of Life Donor Program
401 N. 3rd Street
Philadelphia, PA 19123
- Humanity Gifts Registry
Coordinates organ and tissue donations for medical schools at Drexel, Jefferson Medical College, Penn State, Temple, and University of Pennsylvania
P.O. Box 835
Philadelphia, PA 19105
- Robert Wood Johnson Medical School
675 Hoes Lane, Room NB-11
Piscataway, NJ 08854
To become an organ donor, contact the Department of Motor Vehicles and
request that your intent to be an organ donor be indicated on your driver's
license or register online at www.donatelife.net. It's also a good
idea to fill out an organ donor card and carry it with you at all times.
(You can download and print a donor card at www.organdonor.gov.)
It's also important to let your family know of your wishes. Even if you're
registered as an organ donor or have an organ donor endorsement on your
driver's license, and have completed a donor card, permission of next of
kin is required before action is taken.
Funeral Consumers Alliance (national)
33 Patchen Road
South Burlington, VT 05403
Funeral Consumers Alliance of Maryland and Environs
(Service area includes Delaware)
9601 Cedar Lane
Bethesda, MD 20814
Funeral Consumers Alliance of South Jersey
Cherry Hill, NJ
Funeral Consumers Alliance of Greater Philadelphia
1906 Rittenhouse Square
Philadelphia, PA 19103
Federal Trade Commission
600 Pennsylvania Avenue, NW
Washington, DC 20580
New Jersey State Board of Mortuary Science
124 Halsey Street, 6th Floor
P.O. Box 45009
Newark, NJ 07101
New Jersey Cemetery Board
124 Halsey Street, 6th Floor
P.O. Box 45036
Newark, NJ 07101
Pennsylvania State Board of Funeral Directors
2601 N. 3rd Street
P.O. Box 2649
Harrisburg, PA 17105
Better Business Bureau of Delaware
60 Reads Way
New Castle, DE 19720
Better Business Bureau of New Jersey
1700 Whitehorse-Hamilton Sq. Road
Trenton, NJ 08690
Better Business Bureau Serving Eastern Pennsylvania
1880 JFK Boulevard, #1330
Philadelphia, PA 19103
International Cemetery, Cremation, and Funeral Association
107 Carpenter Drive
Sterling, VA 20164
National Funeral Directors Association
13625 Bishop's Drive
Brookfield, WI 53005
New Jersey Funeral Directors Association
P.O. Box L
Manasquan, NJ 08736
Pennsylvania Funeral Directors Association
7441 Allentown Boulevard
Harrisburg, PA 17112